There are many mistakes we can make when trying to get our ex lover back. Two of these mistakes can cause your ex to run in the other direction.
A big mistake is to apologize endlessly for what you did. If an apology was going to work, one or two would do the trick. If you've said I'm sorry and your ex didn't take you back, you simply need to follow some other steps before you get to an apology.
If you have apologized and it hasn't gotten your ex to take you back, then you need to learn some basic emotional intelligence before you try apologizing again. Two steps you can take BEFORE you apologize are to own up to what you did wrong and then to let your ex vent in a particular way about how they feel about what you did wrong. Look. You've broken up. Your ex has a heart. Their heart is filled with bad or mad or sad feelings about you, otherwise they wouldn't have left you. There is some emotional intelligence you can learn about helping people to vent or release bad feelings. If you can get your ex to release and talk about their bad feelings about what you did it can really create room in their heart for warm feelings towards you again.
A second big mistake we make is to come across as too desperate, needy and hopeless. Leaving them 20 text messages or voice mails a day is way too weak. Telling them they've gotta give you another chance is disrespectful of their feelings. Your ex won't want to take back an emotional wreck.
Yes, your heart is hurting. Yes, you feel desperate and needy. There is this large hole in your life that you want to fill with your ex. That's very understandable. However, you dont want to come across as needy. Keep your neediness to yourself as much as possible!
It may be appropriate to be sad and to share your heartbreak with your ex. But only once or twice, otherwise they get the needy vibe, and this can make them pity you. Pity is not what will get you back in their arms. You can tell them how much losing them has taught you in the way of valuable lessons.
But dont apologize a hundred times and don't come across as desperate and like you are an emotional wreck. Avoiding these two mistakes will help you win back your exs heart that much more quickly.
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